The fuel pump relay behind the battery is the one with the RPM number on it. You'll probably have to remove the Klima Relay to get a grip on it. However, If you can hear the pump run on its timed function then I doubt the relay is bad. A problem that I've seen several times is one where the hose from the idle control valve to the housing under the fuel distributor ages and falls off. This creates a massive vacuum leak and when cranking the air flow sensor plate stays closed and then of course injects zero fuel. The easy way to tell if your lacking fuel and not ignition is to spray a little carb spray into the air flow sensor below the plate. It should run for a second or two and then die. The car and rotor on these engines are usually done before 100K miles and the plug wires usually won't last beyond 120K. Use only a Bosch cap and rotor, but I find that the Beru wires are the best by far. Good Luck