Tom, relax..Behind the "fuse box", there is a rectangular "black box" which has a cover that is held in place with screws. That's the one you need to remove to get to the relay..After you remove the cover for the main fuse box, look towards the firewall, the other "black box" is right behind the main fuse box. Don't fret, it's really there.

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Jeff Lawrence
1989 300e
2000 Dodge Grand Caravan SE
No matter what you fix, there will always be something else to fix..
"Warranty" is just another way of postponing the inevitable.