Just to update this thread one last time for future forum searchers. It has now been 10 days since I cleaned the contacts on my fuel pump relay using grocery bag paper and have not had any problems with the car dieing. This used to happen at least once every 3 days and now nothing so awesome work everyone on helping find the solution to this problem. I think its safe to say that the gritty carbon and burned dust i found on the contacts of the fuel pump relay had something to do with the fuel pumps getting shut off which would drop fuel pressure and keep the engine from starting.

Also we had fun beta testing the new dyno program for the blackberry storm last night and managed to get 196HP to the wheels using its software.