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Originally Posted by MTUpower
It is never easy to lose a loved one. He had a stroke and in the first week he was feisty, then he got markedly worse. He did not go in a car accident or a massive heart attack, nor did he suffer for months or years in a coma or in a semi paralyzed state. My boys got to see him and give him a hug to which he squeezed their hands, and he kissed my wife's hand. He was the greatest man I met, and gave me the life I have now. He set the bar very high for me, and gave me the wisdom, tools, drive and motivation to clear that bar. I could not be more happy he and my mother chose to adopt me. Now I have to write a eulogy for the friday service. God help me.
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It is not usual in my opinion for an individual to be astute enough to rate other factors than blood more important in human family relationships. Or the real importance of setting an example to follow.
Some of our kids that are now getting to be middle aged feel that if myself and the wife had not come along their lives might have been much less. Actually they did it themselves. Yes with some guidance but they still did it themselves.
You can only lead a horse to water. Plus you apparently possess those genes that allowed for a good father son relationship to develop.
Try to remember your father was not just average. Neither are you. Take care and if he lived out an approximate normal lifespan should be a factor as well. He will be remembered. The grief you feel is a healthy reflection of the importance of the bond you both had in my opinion. Very sorry for your loss.
My own father and mother are long gone now. We only have one each of them. Makes life and the passage of time seem short from my currently aging perspective.