Ok still dead in the water.
This is what I tried:
1.- Unplug K38, shorted wires 30 and 87 - nothing
2.- Cleaned all fuses and replaced - nothing
3.- Unplug alarm - nothing
4.- Also a combination of the above - nothing
5.- Kept my hand on the K38 relay while turning ignition on feel it click - nothing

Looked for the x27 connector (I guess my car does not have one, as I could not find it near the brake booster, or anywhere in the engine compartment). This is the only test I have not done.
Would like to do this test before I go and get the third replacement starter in 2 days. It is a royal PITA to remove and replace in this engine, very little room for just about anything.

I forgot to share: The last couple of times I replaced the starter, car will crank 3 or 4 times and starts the car. Then it goes dead, does not work anymore. That leads me to believe the starter is the problem, not the NSS or anything else. I have been working under the assumption a "newly rebuilt starter" cannot fail after 3 or 4 starts.

I guess I have to stop buying rebuilt crap at autozone.

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