I've personally found it both ways.

Needy, insecure women want to control you, and confident, together women that want to control you. Neither type has ever controlled me. Not in this lifetime anyway. Neither type has heard/understood that the relationship takes a vote from both parties. I'm not saying I know better than all women, I just know what does not work for me - and what does work. A person that will not compromise, or communicate is not worth keeping, I have found.

No disrespect meant for anyone, but I am repulsed, (not really amazed) at the numbers of men that let their woman control the relationship, purse strings and all, as if it's their "Mommy." Not a slam, it just doesn't make sense to marry someone, then expect to rely on them to tell you what your job in life is. And keep secrets from them, or vice versa.

Doesn't work that way.