One thought (forgive if I'm too harsh) - If she really wanted to be in this relationship - she would have given you a chance to change/told you what was up before she left. As was said before - relationships are a 2-way street.

-John

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2009 Kia Sedona
2009 Honda Odyssey EX-L
12006 Jetta Pumpe Duse
(insert Mercedes here)

Husband, Father, sometimes friend =)