John and Walgamuth, thank you so much for the good advices.
for the first time in my life i am very confused about buying a car!
We need something big enough for a five years old, a new born and all the gysmo that comes with it and a chesapeak bay retriver. obvious choice is another wagon. on the new market there is nothing big enough that will give us a good mileage, on the second hand market we could find a good passat but it would still have way over 100K plus would still be around 14K. it seems that a 300TD could be great as we have about $6k cash but i fear the constant maintenance issue. I was not able to keep up with my Karmann ghia as i just manage the Bmer. Confusion confusion, surely the light will shine in the right direction soon...