I'm a bit out of my depth of experience, but I think the 3.5 pulse is meant to apply to cars that use an electric vacuum pump. It needs to the longer pulse to run the pump to build vacuum. The vacuum lock switch on the door needs the extra actuator. That's the M in the drawing. 3.5 on a motor may be overkill. It may not matter overall, but maybe not needed.

The actuator/motor appears to always get +12 on the blue and the green lines into the M (assuming the changeover relays are in their resting state at pin 87 = +12v).

I assume you're using the H1/5 grn/blk lock common output wire as the input to the relay with Green (-) lock wire. That setup would require that wire to "go low" or go to ground to trip the changeover relay. (Difference between 85 and 86 = 12 v, relay trips and goes from 87 @ +12 to 87A @ ground. Motor sees +12v on blue and ground on green and actuates. The motor moves the vacuum switch in the drivers door, then the vacuum system does it's thing). The opposite happens with unlock and blue.

You may want to isolate the setup one relay at a time: does the lock relay (green) click when you lock? Does the unlock NOT click when you press lock? And vice versa. If the relays function properly, then you're halfway there.

Double check you've got your 85, 86, 87, 87A and 30 properly identified and connected.

Then verify the 87, 87A and 30 voltages: in lock, the green 30 should be ground and the blue 30 +12v; in unlock, vice versa. In normal, both 30's should be +12v.