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Originally Posted by spdrun
Find another job, part on good terms with her, and speak to her after you've left. Nothing wrong with 15 years older -- I've had two people of that age express their interest, very openly, and I still extremely regret not acting on one of those in time. If she has any interest, since she's your boss, she's probably as nervous as you are.
As far as finding out whether she's married or not, it's a matter of public record in most states ... not gonna tell you where to look, but you can figure it out I'm sure.
Lastly, going out to lunch or for a drink with someone whom you're not expected to be interested in is pretty much perfect, since it can be passed off as a professional lunch without harm on either side in worst case.
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spdrun: I'm pretty sure she is not married and also sure that she's single. Over time you just know these things. Don't think she has any kids either. I wouldn't crush on a married woman or someone who has a bf--or at least the crush would not last long.
I agree, there's nothing wrong with asking a coworker--whether the person be your peer or a superior-- for a casual lunch, but I'm just shy when it comes to that, even if it's just platonic. In fact, I used to be able to talk to her easily, but once I realized I like her, I've become a total dork around her, even avoiding her so that I won't have to talk to her
It's just like high school. Ugh. The weird thing is that she seems shy too, and that's what I like about her, there's this womanly sophistication yet a girlish charm about her. Maybe you're right, spdrun, she may just be as nervous as I am...arggghhhh, stop giving me ideas!
Aklim has some good points, but I like to think that office romance can be addressed maturely and can even work, but it really depends on the individuals involved. There's only one way to find out, and that involves crossing a point of no return. I'm not sure if I'm really to cross that threshold.