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Originally Posted by spdrun
If you don't see the difference between leaving your family for another woman, and changing jobs because of an awkward personal situation, you're stupider than I assumed you were. Let me break it down for you:
Your scenario: you're making money, but are unhappy being around someone whom you're interested in, but you can't act on it (actually, you can if you both are discreet, but let's assume you can't).
My scenario: you're still making money at another job, and have an increased chance in getting what you want in your personal life.
PS - it seems really bizarre to equate a job with marriage, but perhaps you're married to your work. In which case, you shouldn't be with any woman  Why should job and career always come first, before personal considerations?
PPS - none of this prohibits Mr. Frosty from asking the lady to have lunch or drinks with him. It happens all the time, and won't even be worthy of comment since a guy isn't typically interested in a lady who's 15 years older. |
Thankfully, you don't have the money to own me nor do I have any interest in you fellating me so your opinion of me is irrelevant. When you are in the position of either, I'll start to care. I can't help it if you cannot see the parallel, principle, etc, etc.
My scenario is that it is stupid to change jobs and risk what you have over some meaningless crush. I can see changing my job for my wife who needs to be in City X. I can't see jumping from a stable situation to an unstable one for the possibility of a "might be". Been there in my youth and not stupid enough to do that even then. Great for a romance movie but might not be so good in real life.
And you are who again? The world famous marriage counselor with a long stable marriage that everyone admires?
I have dated and almost married a girl 10 yrs older than me over my family objections, married another who is older than me whom I have been dating since 86. I wouldn't take that kind of risk for some girl younger than me or older than me. Stakes are too high for a simple crush. Sounds good to kids or romance movie buffs though.