That's why I said to investigate the situation further and attempt to get to know her better before changing jobs.

Or let me rephrase it: would you be more OK with someone quitting their job if they were in *love* with the person for whom they were working? Let's say that you happened to meet the woman you're currently married to, at work, and she was originally your boss. Are you telling me you wouldn't have tried because of some silly little professional consideration?

Some things are more important than a job -- are you telling me she wasn't?