Problem is that I don't actually LIKE organized group activities, though I'll grudgingly tolerate them for a few months if they get me what I want.

I should also try dating at work -- that's how I met the person who turned me on to the older-woman idea in the first place. I've had a few "are you single, what are you doing tonights" from clients and/or their employees, but been too awkward to take them up -- shouldn't be, since I'm self-employed, worst-case I can afford to lose a client here and there.