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Originally Posted by spdrun
Nope, I find it hard to meet people like the person I met five years ago, and totally f**ked things up with. 40-something (IMHO the sexiest age for women -- younger women bore me and baby faces aren't attractive, best I can describe it is *ripeness*), well-traveled, smart, fun to talk to. Don't even care so much about looks, so long as she takes good care of herself.
I wish I were 10-15 years older, so it would be acceptable to date 45 year olds.
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You do not have to wish for it. Forty five will find you quick enough. There may be problems then though as few 70 year old women will be available.
That is just extrapolating a little.
Seriously though the reason it is better to be of a relativley simular age in my opinion. Neither party should want to relive an era in their life. For example if I was fifty I would not get seriously involved with a 25-30 year old woman. I just would not want to redo so to speak all those things that tend to be age related to meet her needs.
If we are normal we tend to kind of evolve in my opiniom with years. Common age perhaps gives common connections or common ground as well. I would guesstamate that a women perhaps five years older may be more practical. I also imagine if you deal with 40-45 year old women you may have to deal with their grown childrens issues or they may impact you.
Commonly called their baggage I suppose. Difficult perhaps because you will be about her childrens age as well. Of course do as you see fit for yourself. Some of my points are just from observation over the years. There are more I and others could add.
As for my personal happiness. Generally if you have it you are not aware you do. When you are unhappy though you really are aware of that. Overall I am pretty content while not estatically happy. So as I said I probably am reasonably happy. Based simply on not feeling unhappy.
Things overall perhaps could even be better still I have no serious issues there. Things could be worse or even far worse is a certainty. There is an old expresion if you generally have good health be aware that it is important. Many unfortunatly do not. Keeping life simple is prefferable to one very complex as well usually. This I have learnt as an almost absolute from being on both sides of the fence at different ages of my life. A life too complex can devour you.
Strong positives in my life is I have a better than average wife. The kids have all done well and seem well adjusted. Our two dogs seem content. People are good to me and I try to recipricate. I wish I were even a better person than I am but that nobody is perfect either has to be a given.