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Originally Posted by Botnst
This particular issue is where I recognize a clear distinction in my opinion. I have the logical/rational/legalistic side that says serving time deserves another chance.
The other side is the atavistic parent passion side. In which I would commit grave bodily harm on any man or woman who even threatened to abuse a child of mine. I have no problem generalizing that violent attitude to the greater population. My general rule, to be perfectly clear, is "DON'T FOOK WITH YOUNGSTERS." It's irrational, but knowing that doesn't invalidate the evolutionary value of the attitude. Animals protect their young. I am an animal as well as a man. Usually the man controls the beast. But not always and not perfectly.
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I have dealt with this a little. I imagine we all feel the same basically. Yet pedophiles in general do not land up dead. Or I at least have never heard of a case. Yet I still think there might be some.
I also have had issues trying to get parents to get charges laid avoiding the issue with statements like someone will kill the bastard or whatever. Actually in the vast majority of cases charges are probably not laid. Usually I tell them in that common scenario that by not doing so you may be leaving your children open for further abuse by the individual. So then you are as responsible as the pedophile in my eyes for that if it occurs. You cannot sugar coat everything in life.
On that basis alone I feel there are no reliable statistics. Part of my last statements are only a supposition and one has to remember that the majority of children either through confusion or guilt or whatever tell nobody of the occurance or occurances for years if ever. At least there are no statutes of limitations on this type of crime.
The whole issue in my opinion is a little more complex than one would initially suspect. At least there is today some educational elements that help children to tell what has occurred. I imagine the children felt some implicit guilt or threats silenced them in the past more than today. We teach them to obey grown ups after all. Part of todays educational process is to defuse that to some degree.
The offender being charged and convicted seems to offer no relief to the victom particularily in the cases I have observed. The thrust seems instead for the state to get the future activity stopped rather than giving any relief to the victom.
If the person charged pleads not guilty the child will have to be subject to court. On a one victom to one predator basis this experience and process can be very hard on the child. Usually the child molester will be warned that the penalty if convicted will be greater if the child is forced to participate in a trial.
If this approach is illegal and I suspect it might be it is still used locally. Most local pediophiles plead guilty anyways. I hope most lawyers are at least partially responsible for this.They have family and children as well.
It in the overall scheme of things is up to the parents to protect their children. Opportunity must be present for child preditors to function. After the fact is a parenting failure to me. As a general rule in my experience a parent cannot undo the mental damage. Usually instead they are dealing with the after effects not having a clue of the cause of them.