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Originally Posted by ramonajim
Eggzachary.
I'm guessing that Ed is younger than a whole bunch of the folks in this here fine community. Folks perfectly capable of taking care of themselves.
He's young enough to be my brother. Way to young to be my father (he's a couple weeks shy of being ten years older than me). Ma was half a year younger than Ed.
But, here I am, playing the role of arse wiper, bill payer, "I've fallen and I can't get up" event resolver. First for Ma, now for Ed.
But I'm an arsehole for trying to keep him from buying nothing but prepared crap and ice cream/soda/sweet tea/arnold palmer/crap loaded with sugar/salt/chemicals/all of the above when I take him to the grocery store.
I *****. I whine. I vent here, because neither Ed nor any of his friends are here.
Thanks to y'all for humoring me.
I WANT Ed to get better. I want him to get his independence back. For his sake - for his pride, his self respect, his personal integrity. I hate being the bad cop. I hate trying to keep him alive in spite of himself.
More than anything else, I hate knowing that at some point, we're going to fail, he's going to slip away, and Darling Wife is going to hurt.
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I empathize with your situation. I am in a similar one--my MIL--wife is only child. MIL had an accident 2 years ago as we were pondering how to get her to quit driving.. minor fender-bender first rain after a long dry spell and a metal bridge deck. DMV found her not at fault, but required her to have a driver's test to retain her license. She couldn't parallel park to save her life. I spent a half dozen Sunday afternoons with her at a local school parking lot. She'd park fine one time, and then miss 5 or 6 in a row. Every time she tried to test at the DMV she got so tense that she failed. Made it easy to take away the keys. ( She is 88). Now wife has the obligation of taking her mom to the doctors and the store--about 3 days each week. We took her car--and she pays half the gas.