I've known a few people in that age range and it seems that it becomes easier to ignore some irritants. This is one best not ignored. My mother is happy to be with him but apparently he shares his worry with her and then doesn't act on it. That could get to be annoying. I'm tempted to refer her to my legal thing - Pre Paid Legal - where for about $20 a month you can talk to a lawyer by phone, pretty much unlimited. I'm assuming that since she's legally his wife that she can ask questions and get answers to these issues.

I told her a couple of months ago that one huge red flag would be the allowance of anyone but the owner, her husband to pay property tax on the land. I knew a guy who went to Hawaii to grow funny weeds on land owned by a lady veterinarian, who I also knew. She hadn't been there is a while and it seemed like a good deal to her. At some point he persuaded her to let him pay the property tax instead of rent and she agreed. Whoops. I always was wary of trusting they guy, turns out I was right. He managed to get her land after paying the property tax for several years.

I don't know how the laws on that work. Anyway, I asked her yesterday if she had talked about that and she had not! I urged her to discuss this immediately and if tax had been paid by anyone else at all to find a lawyer the next day.

I somehow doubt though that my SD is that dumb. But at that age it's not really a matter of dumbness.

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