Glad you're OK, bro!
Looks about like the damage to the rear of mine when a Toyota rear-ended me a year or so ago, at 30-40 mph...very minimal damage. His was a MESS! My shop had to straighten the right quarter panel, the trunk floor, replace the rear panel (the part behind the license plate), and the bumper shocks. It didn't hurt the bumper, taillights, trim, trunk lid, etc. at all.
$3,000 sounds about right, judging from the pictures. Someone suggested straightening the existing panels, or used parts...I respectfully disagree. Why get used parts if her insurance is paying? Get new parts and get it fixed right!
Let us know how it turns out!
The band is headed out west right now, but I hope to see you next time we're in VA!
Mike