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G-Benz · #21 11-18-2003, 10:44 AM

I don't think the comments disparaging GottaDiesel's lost love (or females in general) is very appropriate given the tone of this thread.

I consider my wife my "best friend" as well, and I will add that most women generally don't just up and "leave" a relationship...it takes a lot of hurt before a woman decides to surrender.

Being an MB forum, a woman leaving a relationship is analagous to a thrown rod in an engine. The rod doesn't just suddenly fail for no reason...long periods of oil starvation may contribute to the ills.

You had mentioned some issues with not tolerating her family, and I applaud your efforts in trying to discover the root cause of her dismay. It is a step towards healing, and a future reminder to keep in tune with your loved one's feelings on a regular basis.

I agree with others that contacting her is not a good idea right now...it would be like adding oil to an engine AFTER it threw the rod.

She needs time to heal...LOTS of time.

If she chooses to return, a lot of concessions will have to be made on your part...you can't fix the engine with a little oil...it needs a complete rebuild!

For the time being, get some help, some professional advice, and do your best to be in the company of friends as much as possible. You need to heal as well.

And by all means, if you need to brood, do so...it's also a part of healing.