Man, I can't feel your pain. I've never been there. But know that I hope you feel better sooner rather than later. Everything in good time.

Not to take away from your thread, but a similar thing has just happened to the brother of a girl I've been seeing lately. Both of them are 29. They've been together for nine years. Dated for two, lived together for another five, and have been married for two years. Last week she told him she simply wanted out of the marriage-- that she didn't want it anymore. He later learned that for the last three years she's been having an online "relationship" with some guy out of state. At least he was out of state until recently, when they moved to his city! Now she wants out and that's it.

I don't know what goes on in the minds of some people. What ever happend to a promise? Does it just mean, "I promise to be faithful and stick it out-- at least until I change my mind?"

I hope I don't ever have to go through what you guys are experiencing. My prayers are with both of you.

I really wonder if the fact that they lived together before marrying had anything to do with the eventual breakup. I tend to think it did.

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Current:
2014 VW Tiguan SEL 4Motion 43,000 miles.

2016 Hyundai Santa Fe Sport (wife's).

Past:
2006 Jetta TDI 135,970 miles. Sold Nov. '13.
1995 E-320 Special Edition. 220,200 miles. Sold Sept. '07.
1987 190-E 16 valve. 153,000 miles. Sold Feb. '06.
1980 300-D 225,000 miles. Donated to the National Kidney Foundation.
1980 240-D manual, 297,500 miles. Totaled by inattentive driver.