Do you have a spec for the valve seat margin? Yes the contact area will turn "grey" when lapped, completely normal. AFAIK the only hardened area of a valve is the stem where the rocker pushes down on. I don't see how lapping the valves would be a bad idea, should be a good thing, making sure the they all seat correctly and the margin widths are in spec. RT

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