I will rephrase my comments. If left in gear, normally D, I can feel the pressure in the brake pedal of the car wanting to move forwards and I have to step harder sometimes making it uncomfortable if it is a long wait like for trains and at large intersections. If I change to N, there is no actual clunking sound, but u feel the whole car relaxing backwards on changing the gear to N. Then I can step off the brake if the road is level. The feeling is normal now. If the road is sloping, I will step on the parking brakes.

Ali I think you meant live the car in gear and not in neutral in your first para.