It is impossible to diagnose your car via the internet. I do fully expect that you need to replace the shocks with a new set of Bilstiens. Beyond that, you need to get underneath the car and exercise the four P's, Push, Pull, pry and prod. Do this on all suspension members and joints to look for looseness.

Replacing parts just because this might be the problem, or others have had those parts replaced with good results is a poor approach. That is like the doctor giving you medicine based on his examination of another patient.

Diagnose before replacing parts. Even if you have to have this done by a professional (what a novel idea) it will save you money because you won't be replacing parts unnecessarily.

Also, don't try to compare your car to some other make and model. They are different animals. Even when driving two different cars of the same make and model they will feel different.

I have recently done a few things to my 124 car and had a four wheel alignment. The car now drives as good as it did when I bought it 200,000 miles ago, so I know you can be successful.

Hope this helps,