Ashman,
Since you are my unofficial wheel shopping partner, I'll let you in on a little secret. Top secret sources (actually, akry from this forum) told me that the EVO II Titanium's have the same finish as the wheels on this Audi TTS:
Notice that it is not simply matte/dull gun metal, but has an alloy shine to it, and is quite matching to the black pearl on my car. He told me this a while ago, so I don't recall his VERY words...which reminds me, he is probably lurking around here right now, SO AKRY, SPEAK UP AND TELL US WHAT YOU KNOW!!!
In terms of the shift knob, I've been lookin'...but no luck. Can't find anything that will match, and I don't want a wood shift knob. Nothing looks good in my car. I have to talkin' about springs/shocks with you guys sometimes though. Let's keep the ideas and pictures rollin' in...