Hottee,
I recently received a mail from you that I have replied; never heard anything from you again....did you receive the reply?
Have you read the replying post about the bumper lights?
About this thread:
1) If you put your transmission in 3rd or 2nd gear, the transmission box will hold on the separate gears a bit longer before it shifts to the next gear. It is not a sport mode (we have separate switches for that at our european automatics). The selected gear is as far the car will shift up.
2) I had the same problem with my car and after I had exchanged the shift stalk (steering column switch) the "problem" was gone. I exchanged the shift stalk for a used one out of a damaged car (no need to buy a new shift stalk for a minor problem like that).
3) The wiper relay is a combined relay. It does control the wiper, indicators and rear defroster. If your wiper reacts on the blinker, the relay is not good any more. The part# you wrote down does not have to start with 202; it can start with 000 since it is used for varying models.
4) a part# starting with 000 is normal for electrical parts, sensors, relays etc.
5) The hook up under the hood is to connect to the dealers compu for controlling/resetting the SRS, the climate control, the motor management system, the ABS, etc.
I do not know about the hook up under the dash; I haven't seen that on the european models I have taken apart yet.
6) wire harness....look for something like this:

It will be all over, in and under the car...
greetingz,