"they allowed us to select a new car" ?? A dealership will always allow you to select a new car - it's what they do. "But now they want me to trade the 03 in.... for 60k... initially they were swapping cars" ???? You didn't get any of this in writing? You thought you were dealing with a church? I suspect you're screwed. Perhaps some verbal committments can be considered binding. But in any case you need an attorney - not ShopForum.