There is an old New England shortcut method for eggnog that may allay your wife's fear of raw eggs, a not unreal fear BTW - bake up a batch of custard, about as much as one makes for a pie, either from scratch or using packaged mixed. Pour the custard into the pitcher, fill pitcher with whole milk and four to eight shots of brandy if desired. Add a teaspon of nutmeg and stir. Excellent with or without the brandy.