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Old 12-31-2004, 09:10 AM
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It depends. It depends on the situation. I have a life-long friend that is the closest thing to a brother I'll ever have (I'm an only) and he's had a difficult time as an adult. He got into drugs in a big way and today suffers from brain damage. At 40, he's just getting some traction with a full time job and being clean and sober for over six months.

Would I give/lend him money? Never. It's simply enabling the problem and encouraging him to get in deeper. He needs to stand on his own. That does not mean I won't help him. As an example, he has a gas guzzling old pick-up and works in a rural area without any transit service. I am giving him our old Mazda 626 to help out in reducing his gasoline bill. The car would be difficult to sell to raise cash for addictive substances.

If you give money to a person that can't control their spending, what good are you really doing them?
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