The relay is located under the hood on the drivers side. It basically sits in front front left wheel "hump", near the ABS pump if I remember correctly. It's a black box about 4" or 5" square and has a wiring diagram with a number of terminals marked on it. I think the terminals are labelled 1 through 6, and #86 or something like that.

Pull the plastic cover off where the bunch of wires come out of it (you'll see what I mean). The fuse is inside. Don't do what I did and replace the fuse live! Make sure you disconnect the battery since that fuse is apparently always live even with the key out of the ignition...

Let me know if I can help out in some way. Is your glow light not working? That can signify bad glow plugs also.

If you can't find the box, let me know and I'll take a picture of mine. I'm going from memory here but it's pretty easy to find.

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