The program is definitely designed as client/server. Even if you use both the email and calendar parts of lotus notes(part of the same database, by the way),you're only using maybe 1/8 of what Notes is capable of. It's a document management program designed for large companies who want control over what employees can see, create, and share. It's all about security. It also takes up a huge amount of space on your HD, mainly for it's other features you're not using and can't use unless you're a Notes designer or administrator, which you need a bit of training for.
I say bag it. If you paid for your copy, find out who 'sold' it to you and demand your money back as it's really no use to a single user.

It sounds to me like you should have Lotus Organizer, if you want the Lotus design. I've met many who say great things about it. I've never used it.Maybe that's what should have been sold to you, especially if you were 'advised' by someone at an unnamed discount computer store...crompusa or something like that.
It's a stand alone that takes up much less space and is under $100 for a brand new copy.
You can probably buy a used copy cheaper.
Also, I think there are lots of other calendar programs to suit your needs. Go to cnet.com and do a search. They have lots of reviews and links.

I hope this is helpful.

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