While I don't agree with the philosophy that if it doesn't work out with girls, try dudes, I say keep at it. You are in college? If not, get there. You will find your niche. They are right about the desperation catch-22. No matter how disinterested you try to act, your hand will be revealed and they will flea (at the crucial time). I should know, I've been wallowing in it for a while. (But I've got a girlfriend now
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