Thanks for all the post and advice.

He was the only one who got caught and it was a random search. He was questioned about the bulkiness of his bag, he hesisitated when asked if there was anything else in there. He then owned up to the pot when asked if there was anything in there he should not have.

I didn't speak to him on the way home, because I had to drive and keep my hands on the wheel.

To be honest, the look on his face when he alked out of the center was enough to lessen my anger a little bit.

We had a heart to heart and he mentioned that he didn't want to be here anymore. I said, here at home he said, yes I still want to be here. I said alive, he said yes. I asked him if he wanted to commit suicide, he said no.??????

He says he has had the same thoughts on other occasions, most recently when he got caught stealing from me.

The thoughts also happen to pop up whenever he gets punished and is not allowed to do the things he wants.

Convenience? Probably.

He feels that he is a failure because he can't seem to do anything right.

Anyway, he seems to feel that the pressure of doing well in school is too much for him and that life is just a bit too difficult when he doesn't get his way.

I came to the conclusion that:

A: I can't be with him 24 hours a day
B: He's going to do what he wants because of conclusion A.
C: I told him I will stop placing demands on him regarding school, just as long as he passes from one grade to the next. He's the one that mentioned becoming a Doctor is the first place.

There are lots more thing to cover, I just can't post it all at once.

He's cleaning his room now and is probably very happy he didn't get whacked, but seems very dissapointed.

Thanks for all the responses.

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