Heh - Whine about the stick in rush hour traffic? Man have you guys had it easy. Try driving a truck with manual steering and brakes with a three on the tree double clutching in the same conditions and tell me that isn't easy.
All you must think of is the simple physics of the operation, the engine meshing with the transmission at perfect rates. Once you have this down it will be much smoother than any automatic.... I prefer to select my own ratios thank you, but on my Mercedes I have no other choice than to let the valve body do it for me....