Abusive Men

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Narwhal just mentioned something on another thread that brings this to mind, and I’ve never seen a thread on this here. That is “Abusive Men”. Almost every day I read or hear something about what some monster has done to his family or some child, and it’s harder and harder to feel proud to be a man. I’m totally against capital punishment, but for this class of man a slow and painful death seems to easy. I’m close to this issue because of my wife. She’s done some work with women – mostly showgirls, models, and dancer types that come from her background. I’m kind of a man-hating female trapped in a man’s body myself I guess. You wouldn’t believe the group we’ve had sitting around in our living room over the years – and you really wouldn’t believe some of the discussions. She’s been my greatest teacher in life. Had I not met her I’d probably be still playing volleyball on the beach and strolling in the backdoor after the lawyer drove off in his Porsche for work. Without realizing it, I’ve known and taken advantage of a lot of girls that had abused pasts that they hid from people. Now that I understand and am sensitive to them I’ve almost developed radar to the type.
I’ve heard Ann say that 1/3 of men have a potential to be abusers, but she can’t say where she gets a number like that. I’ve heard her talk about physical characteristics and how the pituitary gland determines how testosterone is distributed as a sign. We’ve thought that “Crack” smokers go quickly to those darker places.
Any thoughts or data sources to spot the monsters? They destroy the innocence of the women we love.