I met mine when I was 27 married her at 30........we met at a neighbors birthday party and she caught me eye...avoid the bar scene...good for picking up someone to bang for the night or pick up an STD...bad for meeting good women. Odds are you will meet miss perfect when you least expect to.....

Women sense desperation and avoid it........I have more women flock to me now than I did when I was single and looking...when you are looking none are interested....when you are not interested thats when they want you.....

Pay no attention to these people. They’re all caught up in this spirit of the season nonsense. First thing you need to do is go out and join an athletic club. You’ll feel better and develop the extra energy you’ll need to compete in the boring grind you’ve entered into. Forget about women in bars as long as you live at home, you’ll have to have a place to take them and women in Chicago are into older guys anyway. Learn to use bus depots and if there are blood banks that pay for donors learn to catch them on the way in. Buy an expensive looking knockoff watch. You’ll have the good feeling that comes from not paying full price and the women that are actually impressed will be easy. You may need more stress in your life to make you more aggressive. Start making payments on a really expensive car a get even further into debt. If you want to be great you’ve got to act like you are. Learn to play Poker – this is catching on and most of the player’s stink. It may be one way to get on the fast track in a hurry.
Or if your thinking I’m a complete sh**head, take a deep breath and relax. Right now before you’re really deep into it, sit back and try to find what you really like. Wash all the advertised marketing hype out and consider what really makes you feel good, and your perspective may change dramatically – You really should join the athletic club though – make sure it’s the one popular with the ladies.

Yeah, but you won't whine so much.

No doubt, use the hot air for a blow up doll.

Twenty minutes later, and I am still laughing over that one.

At 22, it's far too early to worry about having 'missed your chance' to meet an SO in college. For one, at least in my experience, no one is sane enough to marry at that age anyway... you and your prospective SOs still have a lot of growing and changing to do. You still need some freedom to move, change jobs, try different things in your life, and so should she. Wait until at least your mid to late twenties before seriously 'shopping' for an s.o., unless of course you meet the right girl between now and then. The last thing you would want to do is marry too early, have one of you realize a few years down the road it was a mistake, and find yourself single at an older age -- ask me how I know ;)

Suggestions:

(1) Find something to do one day a weekend that is active and allows you to meet others. There are hiking clubs, dinner clubs, volunteer groups that do things like building houses for poor people, and weekend classes. Set a goal for yourself to sign up for something along these lines at least one weekend in January. It's easy, no commitment, will make you feel like you've accomplished something, and then you can decide whether to continue with that particular activity. I do agree that you don't have time or energy during the week, so stop feeling bad about that and plan for your weekends.

(2) Decide how much money you need to save to buy your own place. Then project out what you're saving now, to determine when you'll be 'done'. If you're in an unhappy situation, it always helps to know when you'll reach the light at the end of the tunnel. Plus, you can decide when to start house-shopping. If the magic date is too far in the future for your liking, you can take steps now to address that (increase income, decrease expeditures, or scale down your target figure).

(3) Don't listen to the advice that you'll only get women when you get money. You will certainly have better chances with a certain kind of woman who has certain priorities if you can flash cash... of course, it's up to you to decide whether that's the kind of woman you want or not :rolleyes: If you want career success, put in the work for yourself and to achieve your goals, not someone else's.

The holidays get a lot of people down... I'm also sans s.o., not dating by choice (but I'll still whine about being lonely, so there), and worst of all for me, this is my son's Christmas to be with his dad, so I'm right there with you. Stay busy, stay out of the bars :), and keep your eyes on your goal, and you'll be okay.

Now THAT is good advice.

I am not looking for the one to marry, more for companionship right now.

Get a dog.

at the risk of stating the obvious, and, at the risk of being labeled a boor, i think he's looking more for a cat......a small one.

Hey man, having been there not too long ago, a couple of ideas for you. First, DON'T buy a place. The fact is you're going to move in the next few years anyway, so why not just rent until you figure out in what area you're going to live? Not having to save up for a down payment frees you up to get out of your partent's and rent a place now. So... rent a place in a cool area that you like, preferably near your friends and HAVE A GOOD TIME.

on a more serious note, and i don't mean to sound pajorative, patience, patience. the SO will happen and if it is not forced it will be life changing. good luck......also, a word of caution to one with so much on the ball so far.....after you pay off the debt----stay out of debt. a very rich man said once," those who understand interest, collect it; those who don't, pay it." Did i mention he's rich?

Like I said.....stop trying to find a woman and they will come looking for you....nothing is more irresistible to a woman that a man that is NOT oogling all over her, or that seems like he doesn't NEED a woman....

And avoid the gold diggers.......they are easy to spot....they are the high maintenance types that are always blowing money on something or other....stay with the women that are happy to be with you....regardless of what you are doing......even if its just watching the sunset fron your back yard.

Now I'm laughing.

Honestly, V if your boo hooing on the forum it's a safe bet you don't have that dynamite 24/7 load of confidence and happiness that EVERYONE NOTICES. Unforunatly they notice the down mooder's and run in the opposite direction. Until you start projecting a positive image it's only going to get worse.

I suggest some time with 1 dollar a dance college student, most of their lives are so screwed up it's likely you'll feel pretty good about yourself and thank uncle Medmech in the morning.

Stick with it. Remember, you are just starting out. Make some goals for yourself short and long term. If you decide the job is too much travel and eats away too much time, just try and look for another and maybe even interview b4 you quit so you have no gaps. I met my S.O. in college. Just give it time. At 22 you have pleanty of time. The right person will come along. No need to rush. Best of luck!