i have been with my gf for 2 years now. im 19 shes 18. when we met her parents wouldnt let her date. we snuck around for 2 months and got caught. her dad threatened a restraining order if i came around again. when i met her i fell in love with her, we knew we loved each other. that same night her mom told us we couldnt possibly be in love as we are too young. i almost walked out of her life that night, but somthing was stopping me. its now been 2 years of sneaking around and we are planning to tell them on the 21st of next month. niether of us know what to expect. they will for sure kick her out,we planned that she will move in with me on that date. i plan to tell her mother that i am sorry we have gone behind her back all this time but obviously we love each other, we wouldnt have stuck through it for 2 years if we didnt. i have no reason to be nervous because there is legaly nothing they can do but i am for her sake. any advise? anyone?

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Not sure if the forum is the right place for relationship advice but you'll need to weigh the risk of severing ties with her family both social and economic. You'll also have to evaluate how well your family accepts her and or any implications that may result for you.

You're both legal adults so you're in the clear there. Financially you'll have to figure out where you both want to be in the short term and the long term and figure out how to get there in terms of education, work, and living environment.

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Ditto,
Most of us can't even stay on good terms with our cars...What could we possibly even know about a relationship issue. In fact, two years is longer than some of us even keep our cars to begin with, before losing interest, and sending them on their way, in favor of one with a nicer Chassis. I can tell you how to adjust your carb. and valves however..If that would help..LOL.

Only kidding with you man. What I would do is just play it by air, and see what happens. Remember, it isn't what you say, so much as it is the delivery. Just chose your words well, both of you, and don't step on each others toes either. If you should have to get out of there in a hurry, don't step on each other's ankles as you run away..lol.

All else fails, grab a flight to Vegas, and Elope, and call it a day..

Best of luck to you my friend. I have a feeling it will all pan out in your's and your girlfriend's favor. You seem to have your heads on straight.

Nick

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You are not doing anything illegal, just analyze the financial consequences and take your step, one at a time. By the way, why are the girl's parent opposing this relationship, to me it looks quite honorable, its not that you are using their daughter and then abandoning her, the kind of commitment you both have shown should impress them on the contrary in this age of disposable everything.

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You two are old enough to make your own decisions, and also face the consequences of said decisions... period.

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There are consequences and benefits of almost all decisions.

Personally I think 19 is way too young to get married. But every situation is different.
I wish you and your girlfriend the best whatever you decide.

Danny

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They know that you are together but they don't want to face the truth, continue sneaking until they pay for her college.

OTOH,If anyone would kick their daughter out of their home just because she had a boyfriend and marriage was planned maybe she is best off getting out of the house.

I'm not being judgemental,simply curious is all and concerned about your plight.

Your Sig. states Money is the root of all evil,will this attitude preclude you from adequately supporting 2 people?what about College costs,if considered?

Is she your first? Do either of you have the most remote idea of what the future will hold? where will you be 10 years from now?

Youthful passions are soon cooled once the harsh glare of reality intrudes thru the fading drapes of fantasy.

Ask me how I know.

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Man, I am kinda going through something similar. My girlfriend and I have decided to move in together. My parents HATE it. The have generally gotten over it though. I suspect her parents will too.

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When you have a problem, define the problem and what caused it in the first place, then solve the problem by dealing with those initial issues. And while you're trying to solve the problem, NEVER use your emotions to guide your actions - use your brain.

In other words, find out why her parents don't like you and find out why they don't trust her. Talk to them calmly and rationally - like an adult - to get the answers you want. Ask their opinions. Ask what you can do to make the situation better. DON'T USE YOUR EMOTIONS TO CONTROL YOUR ACTIONS DURING THIS TIME - use your brain. At the minimum, you might gain their respect.

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I have client who married his high school sweetheart and to this day they are still married. Their oldest is 23 yrs old. They are the only 2 people I have ever met that were the only persons in each other's lives.
I would have to guess that the odds of relationships like these lasting for a lifetime is very small. And the odds for these relationships lasting any significant length of time, even 5 years is also small I imagine.

So, unless you and her are the rare exception, it won't last no matter how strongly you feel about each other today.

Don't let your little head tell your big head what to do. And by all means,

DON'T GET THIS GIRL PREGNANT.
Nature will take its course with you two.

And to repeat a previous post, where do you want to be in 5 years? in 10?


It was a teenage wedding and the old folks wished them well.
...They knew that Pierre did truly love the mademoiselle...
...C'est la vie said the old folks, it goes to show you never can tell.
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Good luck.

All I will say is that I got married the first time at age twenty. I thought I was a lot more grown up than I really was. It lasted eight years and I can see many positives that came out of it. A lot of pain, too.

You have your whole life ahead of you. There's no reason to be in a hurry about this.

Good luck.

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+1

Ask me, too!

Carleton, you have said it ever so eloquently, as usual.

I like that.

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1998 Lincoln Continental - Sold
Max 1984 300TD 285,000 miles - Sold
The Dee8gonator 1987 560SEC 196,000 miles - Sold
Orgasmatron - 2006 CLS500 90,000 miles
2002 C320 Wagon 122,000 miles
2016 AMG GTS 12,000 miles