Originally Posted by G-Benz

Wanting to remain friends is simply her way of attempting to shed the guilt caused by her transgressions. She gets to move on with a clear conscience, knowing you have forgiven her (as a result of you keeping the friendship intact).

Meanwhile you are left hurt and disillusioned.

Don't let her make you the doormat. Dumping her immediately was the right thing to do.

Some folks may be able to accept the love lost and move on. I don't believe anyone who has ever been in love can get past a two-year relationship without remorse...we're talking about a person, not a used appliance!

Do whatever you have to while you grieve...Grieving is healthy. Take whatever time you need, then engage in whatever favorite activity that gives you pleasure. But don't look for another companion until you have gotten over this one...women these days are pretty much looking for someone with their heart intact, and they aren't interested in a man who is still pining over a previous lover...