That makes things quite a bit more challenging.

I hesitate to suggest this, because the lawyer is your friend, but at the same time he's a drag on the profession. So if you've a mind to, you might write a letter to the Judge. Explain the situation. Be sure to send a copy of the letter (and note in your letter that you've done so) to both attorneys (hers and yours).

That might get the other counsel to step in and wrap things up (sounds like her attorney has been dragging his/her feet as well) and if nothing else it should be an answer to what sounds like contempt charges.

The other alternative is to contact the county court for the jurisdiction and ask if they have a roster of legal-aid type attorneys whom you may contact. If things are as "finalized" as you suggest, even if they can't help they may be able to refer you to an attorney who can help you to simply wrap it up on a pro bono basis. Attorneys are supposed to donate some of their time, and if this is that quick, it would be a perfect opportunity for one to jump in and help.

Good luck to you.