Since this problem began after you added the relay for charging the camper battery, you might want to temporarily disconnect your modification, just in case it is loading down the battery and preventing the starter from getting enough current. I consider this an unlikely scenario, think you probably just have a "tired" solenoid as others have said, but it's worth eliminating that possibility while you're checking all the grounds and such.

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"Buster" in the '95

Our all-Diesel family
1996 E300D (W210) . .338,000 miles Wife's car
2005 E320 CDI . . 113,000 miles My car
Santa Rosa population 176,762 (2022)
Total. . . . . . . . . . . . 627,762
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-- Janis Joplin, October 1, 1970

I like this idea. I'll give it a try. It could just be an accidental correlation of events but it's worth an experiment. Don't know what I'll do if it fixes the problem.

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1977 300d 70k--sold 08
1985 300TD 185k+
1984 307d 126k--sold 8/03
1985 409d 65k--sold 06
1984 300SD 315k--daughter's car
1979 300SD 122k--sold 2/11
1999 Fuso FG Expedition Camper
1993 GMC Sierra 6.5 TD 4x4
1982 Bluebird Wanderlodge CAT 3208--Sold 2/13

Disconnecting the relay makes no difference so it's pointing more and more to the solenoid or starter since I rechecked all the connections at battery again.

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1977 300d 70k--sold 08
1985 300TD 185k+
1984 307d 126k--sold 8/03
1985 409d 65k--sold 06
1984 300SD 315k--daughter's car
1979 300SD 122k--sold 2/11
1999 Fuso FG Expedition Camper
1993 GMC Sierra 6.5 TD 4x4
1982 Bluebird Wanderlodge CAT 3208--Sold 2/13