I have had enough and finally told my 18 year old stepson that on weekends he either has to find a job, or go stay with his Father every weekend.

I actually feel guilty which I assume is normal, but will pass in time.

To summarize: At 18 he does nothing a typical 18 year old does. He has a 1.0 GPA in what is suposed to be his Senior year of HS. I say supposed to becasue chronologically, he is a Senior but thanks to the Public school system, he gets to be aSenior, yet owe classes from his Frosh and Sophm years he has not passed. barring any more failed classes this year, he will owe 5 classes that will have to be made up next year, or in summer school.

He doesn't go out, doesn't want to learn how to drive, no interest in girls and is generally apathetic towards everything except music, which he can listen to all day and night in his room.

The culmination came last week when I offered him 30 bucks for about 3 hours of work, so he can have some money in his pocket. He said yes, then stalled and stalled and stalled until it started to get dark and the job would have to wait. He was listening to music with a friend and skateboarding, so the job couldn't get done.

The next day I gave the job to my son, and the stp-son started giving his mother attitude when we asked him to go to Home Depot to help carry stuff.

"Why are we landscaping, why are we pulling weeds, why are we cleaning, it's just going to get dirty, the weeds will grow back, it doesn't make sense, etc...."

He was arguing with his mother the whole time at home depot and basically acted like a ***** the whole time.

At that point, I got into it with him and told him what would happen if he didn't get a job on the weekend.

Yeaterday, I reminded him and told him if he was going to be here today, he would have to go work with me for 5.00 per hour. HE said "no way, I'm going to my Dad's" with attitude of course.

So I said fine, just make sure you're not here all weekend doing nothing, or I'll find something for you to do.

I really feel that he has no desire to grow up and be responsible, which explains him hanging out with kids younger than him. He really cannot hang out with anyone his age and be able to relate to them.

Maybe him spending more time with his Dad will make him start to think and act more responsible.

All I know is, I feel like an ******* by letting him sit around, eat the food I provide, use the comforts I provide, and have him give us an attitude to top it off.

I have been telling him for a couple of years that he may not be suited for school, that he is wasting time and should drop out and take the GED. Then go to a trade school and go to work.

BTW, his Mom is ok with me telling him to go to his Dad's on the weekends. She realizes something needs to be done.


Any thoughts are appreciated.

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