How to Explain the Possession of Data You Are Not Supposed to Possess? - Page 2 - PeachParts Mercedes-Benz Forum

Hatterasguy · #16 02-08-2013, 10:37 AM

Tell him he is lucky she is still his GF and not his wife, divorce is expensive. He should just walk, no need to get into details.

EricSilver · #17 02-08-2013, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by dynalow

I was under the impression you were an attorney? I guess I'm mistaken?

I am not, but when people guess my profession that is what comes up first.

EricSilver · #18 02-08-2013, 05:29 PM

Big Oil is obviously bigger in wisdom.

@JB3 -- agreed
@Skid Row Joe -- no pics (unfortunately). :-)
@TwitchKitty -- Ha!

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Originally Posted by Pooka

In my BIG oil days my area would sometimes come into possession of information that was either VERY sensitive or worth tons of money to the right people.

We just ignored it all. There was just as much chance we were being played as that the info was real.

If we suspected someone was not being honest with us we would be as nice as possible to them. They would figure something was up and bring it up to us. We would tell them our business situation had changed and they were no longer a part of it.

In a situation like this one must ask: What is to be gained by a course of action? If the answer is revenge then the best solution is to forget them and go on to better things. The best revenge is living well.

And when we ignored info we considered it to fall under the area of 'Ethics'. If we were not supposed to know we didn't. What we saw there, and what we heard there, all stayed there.

And...... There is no glory in confronting someone and causing them grief when the situation is FUBAR anyway.

Dudesky · #19 02-08-2013, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Skid Row Joe

Need more details - come on, spill the beans here.

Also, PICS of said woman?

mgburg · #20 02-08-2013, 05:55 PM

Just be happy you're not the one with the information.

Tell your buddy to run all posible scenarios in his head.

Did she or didn't she?

Does it affect me or not?

If it does/doesn't, I'm I damaged?

You know, the gamut of guilt/revulsion/caring/not caring/the works...

Then, when all is said and done, burn the evidence and don't go down that road again.

It seems your friend has some self-esteem issues.

Orrrrr.....he got caught with his willy in a wicket and is trying to cover the parts (or his a55) by making a case that she-did/he-did will balance everything out. Not too stable of a future relationship, is it?

Outside of that, get some popcorn and pull up a chair and catch an episode of "As The Clueless Burn."

Good luck!

aklim · #21 02-08-2013, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by EricSilver

I have this friend.....

He surreptitiously acquired a log of his girlfriend's text messages, some of which are incriminating.

He is wondering how to confront her without specifically identifying how he acquired this information. Citing secrecy on the grounds of "National Security" will probably not fly.

What should I tell him?

This is like the young boy going to the priest:

Boy: This isn't for me. It is about a friend........
Priest: Why don't you sit on my lap and hold this while we talk.......

strelnik · #22 02-08-2013, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by EricSilver

That much is certain.

But as for reasons, and explanation of how he acquired the SMS log is necessary, without revealing exactly how. (She carelessly left it connected to his computer and iTunes backed it up. With his help.)

Fortunately, internal computer records can prove that this was not hacked and if backed up automatically, no crime there, just a practice dangerous to security, which, in your case, is not illegal.

How you handle the personal stuff is up to you.
Good luck

barry12345 · #23 02-08-2013, 09:23 PM

This is just another episode of how the world churns. Tell your friend she cannot wear it out anyways.

As mentioned the high cost of leaving may not apply to this situation. I would actually stay right out of it. There is the old senario where the guy and woman where physically fighting on the street. A passerby tried to stop them. They both turned on him.

Some people exist in strange ways and seem to have the need to do so. They down deep seem to enjoy the chaos.

Skid Row Joe · #24 02-09-2013, 12:35 AM

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Originally Posted by aklim

This is like the young boy going to the priest:

Boy: This isn't for me. It is about a friend........
Priest: Why don't you sit on my lap and hold this while we talk.......

Might there be pictures of your example? (Not that I want to see them.........)

EricSilver · #25 02-13-2013, 11:20 AM

Well, it turns out the issue is not as big as I was led to believe, and was something I personally would have ignored (relatively innocuous flirtation).

Some people's "rules" are stricter than others when it comes to that, I suppose. (I agree with the remark about esteem issues; this would not have perturbed anyone whose esteem was solidly intact.)

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