Whatever. He made that CHOICE, and he can live with the consequences.

Mike

Yes, some states have taken care of the issue legislatively, making a pre-nup not an absolute "must". However, many states have not figured that out yet.

Mike

I live in a community property state and the concept is not without its problems. God help you if you're separated but not divorced. Anything you buy with your money is half hers unless she grants you the favor of signing off on it. Buy a car -- it's half hers. Buy a house -- it's half hers -- it doesn't matter whose money it is.

Yes -- when I moved to Arizona from Illinois in the midst of a divorce a little while back, I thought a time warp had landed me back in the stone age. I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't find the "community property" concept progressive.

Re: Married, Rich, Rockstar....
 

'Married rockstar' kind of takes the fun out of it, doesn't it? I suppose once you reach a certain age... :D

So if you're "separated", don't make any major purchases until you're divorced....Seems pretty simple.

Mike

Yes, it sounds simple -- it's just not always feasible -- at least it wasn't in my case.

Sorry to hear that....but I'd say your situation, whatever it was, was probably the exception to the rule.

Seems like there would be a simple fix for this "loophole" as well....The law could be amended so that as soon as one party files for divorce, or perhaps there could be "intent to divorce" papers that one could sign, the community property rule would no longer apply.



Mike

Well, as it was, I had to go crawling on my hands and knees to get a release from my soon-to-be ex-wife, who tried to use it as a bargaining chip. Trust me -- you wouldn't have liked it...

The "sounds simple and oughtsta be simple, but isn't" rule of life is why people hire physicians, airline pilots, double-nought spies, soldiers, M-B mechanics, botanists and yes, even lawyers.

Botnst

Had a lawyer -- a shark of a divorce lawyer who happened to be good friends with the Judge -- this guy was magnificent (and I've seen mediocre lawyers -- I do know the difference). Ex in Illinois, married in Illinois, divorce in Illinois, property purchase in Arizona. It really had nothing to do with the divorce as such, and I felt it best to swallow some crow and handle it personally, which I did. It just seemed ridiculous that I had to endure it at all.

Re: Re: Married, Rich, Rockstar....
 

Mr. Mover has one of those win-win scenario's that seems to work for his wouldbe-couldbe spouse so I guess thats a win----->win---0 to me.

Long live the rock star.

Re: Re: Re: Married, Rich, Rockstar....
 

:D Life is good. :D

Mike

The system is taken advantage of and other favorite movies
 

First thing is first: 1) Thomas Crown affair 2) bad boyz 1 & 2 with will smiths character. If i was single and super rich, I would be happy. I really like the thomas crown affair cause of the bentley and the mind games. :D

To the prenump, there is a few issues though. Nowdays you have "gold diggers" that try to take advantage of guys for money. What is this socieity coming to?

I dont know what you guys think, but a girl that will marry (or be with) a sugar daddy is nothing more than a prosititue to me. Any agreements or dissagreements? I lose respect and interest in them almost instantaniously.

For you married guys out there, would you have married your wife if she was an ex-stripper or ex-escort? What would you do if you found out she was AFTER being married for XX years?

Howdy All,
I voted rich and single. I got it half right:)

Re: The system is taken advantage of and other favorite movies
 

:confused:

Re: The system is taken advantage of and other favorite movies
 

When I was considering marrying I made a decision never to ask my wife about her previous intimacies. None of my business. It is still none of my business.

If I found out about something that happened before we were married, by some third party? I'd NEVER mention it to my wife. To what end?

Botnst

Re: Re: Re: The system is taken advantage of and other favorite movies
 

But..., but...., they're the funnest ones!!!

I will drink to that! Let me know if you find one that is rich and single. Oh yeah cute too ;)

Re: Re: Re: The system is taken advantage of and other favorite movies
 

Going through your head? Think of the head she's gone through!

sometimes, when I wake up in the morning....I am still tired!
How can that be?
Keep those diesels humming:D
spo out:cool:

Trust, honor, love. These are words that she and I have lived by for nearly 30 years. I'll live with them rather than worry without cause.

I never worry about what happened prior to me. Don't ask, don't tell.

It wouldn't do any good for either of us to know anyway.

Obviously, you don't marry a chick who swallows penis for a living(unless that's your thing) but you qualify and learn about the other person and move on.

Personally, it's none of my business.

If I had a doubts to her fidelity and reputation, I'd never have married her.

.02

For me personally its a tough call. I can understand where plant and botnest are coming from with the "dont ask dont tell question". I can see where the past should stay in the past.

At the same time though, i understand where virginia dude is coming from, people dont change. At least not overnight. once trust is compromised, there isnt much left in a relationship.

I knew of a few wifes, who has other guys "cum over", no pun intended, while the husband was at work. Later the husband found out that his wife was having an affair(s). I couldnt image the pain the husbands felt.

Just like the neurosurgon wife example with the nurse scrub, kind of...

Maybe for all us single guys out there, we have a subconscious trust issue?