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Originally Posted by Zacharias
From my experience:
Some people can have the best of upbringings and simply turn out wrong. It happens. It is no reflection on you, your wife or family, or anything you have done. It is VERY important you have this clear in your mind. If you are able, I strongly suggest you hook into whatever local support group(s) exist for families of addicts. You sound really strong now but as time goes by this will start to eat you from the inside. If no support group is near, I would consider trying to find a counsellor or health practitioner of some kind who deals with addicts, who you can sit down with for an hour and get the lowdown on what to expect and what you can do.
As a general observation, you are no longer dealing with your daughter. You are dealing with a person whose brain is progressively being rewired by the addiction. This happens with any substance problem, alcohol included, but Meth and Crack are really frightening in terms of how fast people can completely deteriorate and become shells of their former selves.
I see this process as the mental equivalent of flesh eating disease. The disease takes over and will fight any attempt to thwart or defeat it, however good or sympathetic the intentions.
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A good post and reflects the general truth with addictions. We all like to have a good time from time to time. For my generation it was booze in responsible quantities usually.
I have always found it strange that even though people have seen what illegal drug use and what other things can do. It is not pretty to watch. They still can get involved with them. This too me is not logical and reflects other issues present before the start..
The no remorse for their actions at all or any aparent functioning of a concience any more seems to be the principal target areas for addictive substances. .It truly becomes all about me to the extreme.
Years ago a friend asked me to stop by a alcoholics aa group for a short time with him for moral support as he had quit. They asked me to stand up as I was a new face. Stupidly rather than saying I was just visiting with a friend. I knew it was stupid as I spoke the words that I really did not have a drinking problem.
Some people can have the worse upbringing and get by it in life. Another child from the same family may dwell on it and blame it for their own failure in life. There is little consistancy even between siblings.
I have always thought the majority of kids from my generation growing up where from average working class families that just got by. Since this was tha average norm of the times we did not feel underprivliged, resentful or whatever.. We just grew up and became more self reliant than an average child would today.
Reflecting on it today it was actually better than having most things just handed to you as we pretty well do with our kids today. I just hope this is not the causative factor behind society owes me I see as well all too often with some younger people.