So all you lovers out there,

Does your significant other feel you are romantic enough? My girlfriend feels I am too boring and don't do enough things for and with her. She also says I spend too much time with my car. To tell the truth, she and the car are the only things besides work that I really care about at this time in my life.

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1984 300SD Orient Red/ Palomino
1989 560SEC
2016 Mazda 6 6 speed manual
1995 Ford F-150 reg cab 4.9 5speed manual

You need to plan the events that you want to do and invite her along on everything. Let her choose whether she wants to go or not. Don't worry about trying to tailor your life to suit her. If that's what she's expecting then you're with the wrong person. Being considerate and romantic shouldn't be a job it should come naturally and be a pleasure. When I'm with the one I love, heck, going to the grocery store is exciting! The pleasure of the experience has WAY more to do with the company than with the actual event.

How's that for some random thoughts!

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-Evan


Benz Fleet:
1968 UNIMOG 404.114
1998 E300
2008 E63


Non-Benz Fleet:
1992 Aerostar
1993 MR2
2000 F250

I'm a sappy old goon. My wife thinks I'm too mushy. One thing about women that (IMHO) is indisputable: They go into every relationship with an eye toward changing the other person. Nothing wrong with a little fine-tuning but beware the drastic alteration. You become somebody you are not and maybe someone she doesn't like after the transformation. (OK, to be fair I should add that men go into a relationship with the delusion that she will never change and then get upset when she does.)
One thing is for certain. Open dialogue is the key.

Ditto what Evan said also.

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1983 M-B 240D-Gone too.
1976 M-B 300D-Departed.

"Good" is the worst enemy of "Great".

She dosent want to go to pick-n-pull with me

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1984 300SD Orient Red/ Palomino
1989 560SEC
2016 Mazda 6 6 speed manual
1995 Ford F-150 reg cab 4.9 5speed manual

That's OK. If you need to go, for whatever reason, whether you're just browsing or actually looking for something, just go. She shouldn't complain if you want to go any more than you would complain if she want's to go clothes shopping.

Ultimately, there should be enough things you're interested in doing together to keep the relationship fresh and neither one of you should feel like it's a chore. At the same time, neither one of you should shame the other into doing something together for selfish reasons.

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-Evan


Benz Fleet:
1968 UNIMOG 404.114
1998 E300
2008 E63


Non-Benz Fleet:
1992 Aerostar
1993 MR2
2000 F250

Women, I certainly can't understand them.

What about flowers and a nice dinner?

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2006 CL500
2009 C300 4matic
1969 280SE
2023 Ram 1500
2007 Tiara 3200

Somebody once told me, "Men marry women, hoping they'll never change, and women marry men, thinking about all the things about the man they will change."

I don't believe this is unversally true, but it seems like it is pretty common.

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" We have nothing to fear but the main stream media itself . . . ."- Adapted from Franklin D Roosevelt for the 21st century

OBK #55

1998 Lincoln Continental - Sold
Max 1984 300TD 285,000 miles - Sold
The Dee8gonator 1987 560SEC 196,000 miles - Sold
Orgasmatron - 2006 CLS500 90,000 miles
2002 C320 Wagon 122,000 miles
2016 AMG GTS 12,000 miles

I'll go with you. In any event your fine the way you are. If she needs sappy, she can find it else where.

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"It's normal for these things to empty your wallet and break your heart in the process."
2012 SLK 350
1987 420 SEL

I don't blame her for not wanting to go to pick and pull, and for thinking i spend too much time for my car. But, I do, but I do not want to spend 50 dollars or more on flowers that die in a week.

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1984 300SD Orient Red/ Palomino
1989 560SEC
2016 Mazda 6 6 speed manual
1995 Ford F-150 reg cab 4.9 5speed manual

Do not spend $50 on flowers.
There are books out there, with ideas that can get that flame a little bigger/brighter.
Laura Korn (I think) has a few books out there, that make the whole thing fun, instead of a chore.
Sometimes however, just a few well placed words can work wonders as well

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It is a truism that almost any sect, cult, or religion will legislate its creed into law if it acquires the political power to do so. Robert A. Heinlein


09 Jetta TDI
1985 300D

Yeah. I'd rather spend that 50 bucks toward euro headlights.

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1984 300SD Orient Red/ Palomino
1989 560SEC
2016 Mazda 6 6 speed manual
1995 Ford F-150 reg cab 4.9 5speed manual

You can, however, once every 30-45 days, go to the grocery store, and buy a $5-$9 little bouquet of flowers. Nothing too big...just a handful of asst. or a inexpensive little bud vase with a couplethree roses in it and some garnish (baby'sbreath/fern/etc).

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It is a truism that almost any sect, cult, or religion will legislate its creed into law if it acquires the political power to do so. Robert A. Heinlein


09 Jetta TDI
1985 300D

The biggest thing ladies like is when you listen to them. Listening is the best forplay there is. Details about whether you get flowers or candy or whatever do not really matter. You need to spend time with her and make her know how important she and her thoughts and concerns are.

Variety is the spice of life, too. Don't allow yourself to get in a rut. Do different things, go different places. If she wants you to go to the ballet (for example) do it. If it turns out to be a fiasco you have a shared experience you can laugh at later (maybe 30 years later).

Skip through life with a spirit of adventure and she will too.

If that doesn't work maybe punting is in order!

Tom W

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[SIGPIC] Diesel loving autocrossing grandpa Architect. 08 Dodge 3/4 ton with Cummins & six speed; I have had about 35 benzes. I have a 39 Studebaker Coupe Express pickup in which I have had installed a 617 turbo and a five speed manual.[SIGPIC]

..I also have a 427 Cobra replica with an aluminum chassis.

Get her nice and drunk and bang her in as many positions possible on the living room floor. A woman likes a "take charge" man. Show her who the BOSS is!

How's that for romantic?

Well, I'm not romantic, but I try.

AND it's not appreciated.

Bring flowers, "Oh were they on sale".

Big case in point.
For our 20th anniversary, I couldn't figure out what to get her.
We go to Sandals every year, for our anniversary (we honeymooned there).
I know the manager at MoBay and email him asking if he can setup a renewal of vows during the returning guest dinner.
We'll he and they at the hotel went nuts, though it was fantastic. Had flowers, the photographer the works.
A total surprise to her. He asks me, as a senior Returning Guest to come up and say something, Well after a couple of quick comments about our relationship. I drop on one knee an repropose, he then renews our vows. He is a registered minister.

I really think they were more excited about it than her.

OK, here's my question.
Why is it we men have to be romantic, but the women doesn't ?

Yet we get in trouble for not being ??

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KLK, MCSE

1990 500SL

I was always taught to respect my elders.
I don't have to respect too many people anymore.