Are you REALLY Happy?

[The Clk Man]

Discussion Please.

[Dubyagee]

Yes,

Great faith, great family, new house, great job, great friends and a couple of Mercedes.

[spdrun]

Nope, I find it hard to meet people like the person I met five years ago, and totally f**ked things up with. 40-something (IMHO the sexiest age for women -- younger women bore me and baby faces aren't attractive, best I can describe it is *ripeness*), well-traveled, smart, fun to talk to. Don't even care so much about looks, so long as she takes good care of herself.

I wish I were 10-15 years older, so it would be acceptable to date 45 year olds.

[MS Fowler]

Originally Posted by spdrun

Nope, I find it hard to meet people like the person I met five years ago, and totally f**ked things up with. 40-something (IMHO the sexiest age for women -- younger women bore me and baby faces aren't attractive, best I can describe it is *ripeness*), well-traveled, smart, fun to talk to. Don't even care so much about looks, so long as she takes good care of herself.

I wish I were 10-15 years older, so it would be acceptable to date 45 year olds.

It is sad to see that your sole measure of happiness is sex.

[spdrun]

Not sex. Companionship. Finding sex with naive 20-something barflies is no trick, but isn't what I'm looking for. Finding someone in her late-30s to mid-40s who's interesting to be with in all respects is the goal. Guess I just need to get the word out there that I go for older women, and that it's my preference - I have plenty of friends that age who might know someone who's open-minded.

Maybe I'm more female than male in this respect (hence the preference for older partners, and my lack of understanding for the stereotypical guy who wants to f**k but not talk).

[MS Fowler]

Originally Posted by spdrun

Not sex. Companionship. Finding sex with naive 20-something barflies is no trick, but isn't what I'm looking for. Finding someone in her late-30s to mid-40s who's interesting to be with in all respects is the goal. Guess I just need to get the word out there that I go for older women, and that it's my preference - I have plenty of friends that age who might know someone who's open-minded.

Maybe I'm more female than male in this respect (hence the preference for older partners, and my lack of understanding for the stereotypical guy who wants to f**k but not talk).

Thanks for clarifying. Relationships are very important. Its a good thing that 20 somethings generally LOOK so good--the attraction disappears when they try to talk.

[barry123400]

Originally Posted by spdrun

Nope, I find it hard to meet people like the person I met five years ago, and totally f**ked things up with. 40-something (IMHO the sexiest age for women -- younger women bore me and baby faces aren't attractive, best I can describe it is *ripeness*), well-traveled, smart, fun to talk to. Don't even care so much about looks, so long as she takes good care of herself.

I wish I were 10-15 years older, so it would be acceptable to date 45 year olds.

You do not have to wish for it. Forty five will find you quick enough. There may be problems then though as few 70 year old women will be available. That is just extrapolating a little.

Seriously though the reason it is better to be of a relativley simular age in my opinion. Neither party should want to relive an era in their life. For example if I was fifty I would not get seriously involved with a 25-30 year old woman. I just would not want to redo so to speak all those things that tend to be age related to meet her needs.

If we are normal we tend to kind of evolve in my opiniom with years. Common age perhaps gives common connections or common ground as well. I would guesstamate that a women perhaps five years older may be more practical. I also imagine if you deal with 40-45 year old women you may have to deal with their grown childrens issues or they may impact you.

Commonly called their baggage I suppose. Difficult perhaps because you will be about her childrens age as well. Of course do as you see fit for yourself. Some of my points are just from observation over the years. There are more I and others could add.

As for my personal happiness. Generally if you have it you are not aware you do. When you are unhappy though you really are aware of that. Overall I am pretty content while not estatically happy. So as I said I probably am reasonably happy. Based simply on not feeling unhappy.

Things overall perhaps could even be better still I have no serious issues there. Things could be worse or even far worse is a certainty. There is an old expresion if you generally have good health be aware that it is important. Many unfortunatly do not. Keeping life simple is prefferable to one very complex as well usually. This I have learnt as an almost absolute from being on both sides of the fence at different ages of my life. A life too complex can devour you.

Strong positives in my life is I have a better than average wife. The kids have all done well and seem well adjusted. Our two dogs seem content. People are good to me and I try to recipricate. I wish I were even a better person than I am but that nobody is perfect either has to be a given.

[MBeige]

Thanks for making this thread! We need more reminders of what we can be happy about, and celebrate them.

Originally Posted by Dubyagee

Yes,

Great faith, great family, new house, great job, great friends and a couple of Mercedes.

Same here!

[jplinville]

In my house and family, yes. i couldn't imagine a better person than my wife.

In my health, no...I was recently told by the team of doctors at UPMC that my lack of ability to balance has been caused by years of abuse by my chosen trade and hobbies, and that there isn't much more they can do for me.

I'm debating on giving up driving, can't walk well without a cane, and am quickly headed back to the walker. If I could go back to have a do-over on life, I'd find another trade to follow.

Luckily, and I mean that I'm a real lucky guy on this, I have a wife that told me that she signed on for the long haul, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for the rest of her life. Because of this, I feel as if I'm not in this alone, and that makes me a lucky man.

[t walgamuth]

Originally Posted by jplinville

In my house and family, yes. i couldn't imagine a better person than my wife.

In my health, no...I was recently told by the team of doctors at UPMC that my lack of ability to balance has been caused by years of abuse by my chosen trade and hobbies, and that there isn't much more they can do for me.

I'm debating on giving up driving, can't walk well without a cane, and am quickly headed back to the walker. If I could go back to have a do-over on life, I'd find another trade to follow.

Luckily, and I mean that I'm a real lucky guy on this, I have a wife that told me that she signed on for the long haul, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for the rest of her life. Because of this, I feel as if I'm not in this alone, and that makes me a lucky man.

Sorry to hear the gloomy prognosis on the balance issue Glad to hear you have a great gal!

[jplinville]

Originally Posted by t walgamuth

Sorry to hear the gloomy prognosis on the balance issue Glad to hear you have a great gal!

I'm learning to adjust to it...but it hasn't been easy.

[SwampYankee]

Originally Posted by jplinville

In my house and family, yes. i couldn't imagine a better person than my wife.

In my health, no...I was recently told by the team of doctors at UPMC that my lack of ability to balance has been caused by years of abuse by my chosen trade and hobbies, and that there isn't much more they can do for me.

I'm debating on giving up driving, can't walk well without a cane, and am quickly headed back to the walker. If I could go back to have a do-over on life, I'd find another trade to follow.

Luckily, and I mean that I'm a real lucky guy on this, I have a wife that told me that she signed on for the long haul, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for the rest of her life. Because of this, I feel as if I'm not in this alone, and that makes me a lucky man.

Dang. Sorry to hear that, Jon. Glad you've got the right woman by your side!

[Darktech]

Originally Posted by jplinville

In my house and family, yes. i couldn't imagine a better person than my wife.

In my health, no...I was recently told by the team of doctors at UPMC that my lack of ability to balance has been caused by years of abuse by my chosen trade and hobbies, and that there isn't much more they can do for me.

I'm debating on giving up driving, can't walk well without a cane, and am quickly headed back to the walker. If I could go back to have a do-over on life, I'd find another trade to follow.

Luckily, and I mean that I'm a real lucky guy on this, I have a wife that told me that she signed on for the long haul, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for the rest of her life. Because of this, I feel as if I'm not in this alone, and that makes me a lucky man.

Sorry to hear about your health issues. Always sucks to suffer. I agree Peg is a keeper, especially since she's married to a character who has a mind much like my own. You can add to your happiness by doing what I did. Find something to believe in. As for me, I believe I'll have another cigar.

[tbomachines]

I am a happy guy. Lucky to have great friends, great family, a great gf, and a lot of experience that some people only dream about (like college degrees). Doesn't mean I am going to stop improving myself and/or that there are areas that I can't do better, but am I happy? Absolutely!

[Air&Road]

Originally Posted by tbomachines

I am a happy guy. Lucky to have great friends, great family, a great gf, and a lot of experience that some people only dream about (like college degrees). Doesn't mean I am going to stop improving myself and/or that there are areas that I can't do better, but am I happy? Absolutely!

That's really great! Is there anything about you that is NOT perfect?