Discussion Please.

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Yes,

Great faith, great family, new house, great job, great friends and a couple of Mercedes.

Nope, I find it hard to meet people like the person I met five years ago, and totally f**ked things up with. 40-something (IMHO the sexiest age for women -- younger women bore me and baby faces aren't attractive, best I can describe it is *ripeness*), well-traveled, smart, fun to talk to. Don't even care so much about looks, so long as she takes good care of herself.

I wish I were 10-15 years older, so it would be acceptable to date 45 year olds.

In my house and family, yes. i couldn't imagine a better person than my wife.

In my health, no...I was recently told by the team of doctors at UPMC that my lack of ability to balance has been caused by years of abuse by my chosen trade and hobbies, and that there isn't much more they can do for me.

I'm debating on giving up driving, can't walk well without a cane, and am quickly headed back to the walker. If I could go back to have a do-over on life, I'd find another trade to follow.

Luckily, and I mean that I'm a real lucky guy on this, I have a wife that told me that she signed on for the long haul, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for the rest of her life. Because of this, I feel as if I'm not in this alone, and that makes me a lucky man.

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It is sad to see that your sole measure of happiness is sex.

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Not sex. Companionship. Finding sex with naive 20-something barflies is no trick, but isn't what I'm looking for. Finding someone in her late-30s to mid-40s who's interesting to be with in all respects is the goal. Guess I just need to get the word out there that I go for older women, and that it's my preference - I have plenty of friends that age who might know someone who's open-minded.

Maybe I'm more female than male in this respect (hence the preference for older partners, and my lack of understanding for the stereotypical guy who wants to f**k but not talk).

I am a happy guy. Lucky to have great friends, great family, a great gf, and a lot of experience that some people only dream about (like college degrees). Doesn't mean I am going to stop improving myself and/or that there are areas that I can't do better, but am I happy? Absolutely!

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Current stable:
- 2004 Mazda RALLYWANKEL
- 2007 Saturn sky redline
- 2004 Explorer...under surgery.

Past: 135i, GTI, 300E, 300SD, 300SD, Stealth

Thanks for clarifying. Relationships are very important. Its a good thing that 20 somethings generally LOOK so good--the attraction disappears when they try to talk.

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1982 300SD " Wotan" ..On the road as of Jan 8, 2007 with Historic Tags

I'm pretty lucky and usually very happy because of it! I've got a great job I'm not always as good at as I should be (working on it), fantastic, funny, lovely family and hilarious, wonderful friends. I started running a little while ago to prevent osteoporosis later in life and feel great about it. Just got another part-time job to funnel in more cash and strengthen my financial position. No boyfriend, but not for lack of being asked out. And at the start of summer I made a financial plan for the next 15 years, so I feel like I know where I'm going with my life and can support my dreams and ambitions. I intend to have kids one day, but one dependent (the 300D) is enough at the moment! If I do feel low, it's usually because I'm not working as hard in my degree programme as I believe I could be but I'm making changes there too.

I'm so happy for all of you who have awesome partners and spouses in your lives, and for anyone who's looking, I'm sure the cougars are looking for cubs.

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"You know, times are changing. Ladies can do stuff now and you're going to have to learn how to deal with it."
"What? Were you saying something? Look, I don't speak Spanish."

Speaking for myself, I'd prefer to be introduced to someone older directly rather than going through some Internet service. And fortunately, I know people that I can ask if they know any single ladies who are 5-10 years older and open-minded, if I can get up the courage to do so.

I'm not really looking for a cougar-cub relationship (implying mostly for casual sex), as much as a long-term relationship with an older woman whose company I can enjoy. Basically, I want to be treated like a 40-45 year old, since I essentially am one in all but chronological age.

This isn't a question of finance -- I already have everything I need, and am better off than most Americans. I also have no interest in having kids biologically, so that's not an issue.

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you. I'm sure there are plenty of older women in the city who would love to meet a younger guy who is mature, financially stable and doesn't want children. You should join societies or clubs or groups that do things where you're more likely to meet women in that age group and then see who you meet. Even if you don't meet awesome ladies for the first couple of months, you're likely to meet people who share your interests and maturity and your social network will grow to include awesomely attractive older women. What about book clubs, wine tasting groups, cookery classes, creative writing courses, gym classes, yoga, pilates, hiking, boating? I mean, when you imagine the perfect woman, what does she do because you should do that too so that you'll meet her.

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"You know, times are changing. Ladies can do stuff now and you're going to have to learn how to deal with it."
"What? Were you saying something? Look, I don't speak Spanish."

What would you recommend as far as activities and clubs, to increase my chances of meeting such people?

Oops. I edited above, sorry.

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"You know, times are changing. Ladies can do stuff now and you're going to have to learn how to deal with it."
"What? Were you saying something? Look, I don't speak Spanish."

And I think pilates is totes the winner in that group. Don't dive in in a big way. A younger guy being there consistently will be enough to pique interest. And ladies in that age bracket are also looking for ways to meet men, either for themselves or for their friends because they mostly only know other women their age who are either married or single—but they don't know lots of eligible men who are not taken. You might even make friends with some of these taken ladies and after a few months be able to ask if they have any nice friends they could set you up with if you guys become bros/broettes.

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"You know, times are changing. Ladies can do stuff now and you're going to have to learn how to deal with it."
"What? Were you saying something? Look, I don't speak Spanish."

Problem is that I don't actually LIKE organized group activities, though I'll grudgingly tolerate them for a few months if they get me what I want.

I should also try dating at work -- that's how I met the person who turned me on to the older-woman idea in the first place. I've had a few "are you single, what are you doing tonights" from clients and/or their employees, but been too awkward to take them up -- shouldn't be, since I'm self-employed, worst-case I can afford to lose a client here and there.