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I have been in the acquaintance of very many young single mothers over the last few years and have learned that they live in a different world than you or I are accustomed to.
The opportunity for the father to "step up" is probably not there. $10/hr jobs don't support families or even pay child support. You have some big adjustments to make in the way you view this to close the gap with the reality of her situation. Do a lot more asking than telling. |
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Very best of luck with it all JP!
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I graduated high school at 1 pm on a saturday (a looong time ago). By 8 pm 6 guys in my all male class of 161 were married. These things happen to a lot of good people and it's certainly nothing new. With some help from you and yours, she and the baby will do ok. She is very lucky to be in the family she is in. The child is a gift from God. She already has started to make good choices by keeping the child. She will make a fine parent as she has seen both good and bad examples. Tell the expectant mother I said congradulations. And congrats to you too Grampa!
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they have to be taught how to behave.
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What did people do before priests, rabbis, shamans, imams, rectors, canons, ministers, pastors and the like existed? Was all sex bad? No sex bad? Some sex bad? Inquiring minds want to know.
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and you got some in-laws that I would drug and leave on a bus to Tijuana with no clothes, no ID and no money-- just like the new baby who got thrust into this world. See how they would like it!! And it sounds like the son-in-law proved his devotion and has been successful. Good for them! and for you!
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Thanks everyone, I appreciate the support.
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Life is not a dried and cut equation and never has or will be.. If it were not for unintended pregnancies there would be a lot fewer people around. In fact I may not have been even typing this nor you being here to read peoples posts if they did not occur in the heat of the moment so to speak.
Sex to me is just part and parcel of the human condition. To constrain it within certain rules never was nor will be too realistic. People trying to do there best in a given situation is perhaps more important. With the more transient nature of marriages continuing to expand. There have been enourmous social shifts in our time alone. Even pregnant out of wedlock is now a somewhat obsolite expression. |
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My wife told me that we need to quickly clear out the rental I inherited when my dad passed away, so that my daughter can live there. I have great issue with this, because I think that giving today's young adults everything they need without them working for it is what's wrong with the country today.
I told her that it's a can of worms best left unopened, and that there's no way in hell that I'd GIVE her a place to live, rent free. I had to pay rent when I started out as an adult, and learned to work within my set budget...and that my daughter will need to do the same. I'm willing to reach out and help financially, if needed, but I'm NOT giving her a house to live in for free. I'm already putting out a chunk of coin each quarter to cover her college classes and books...
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fwiw I consulted for a mid-sized non-profit for about a year. The organization focuses on care for teens in times of crisis. Part of what they do is to provide housing and care for pregnant women and new moms (under 21 years old) when no one else will.
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I am a negotiator in my business dealings so have a couple of times come up with methods to deal with our kids problems in a positive way when the mrs. was ready to write the kids off and move on. It is worth a lot of effort to optomize your situation for you, your wife and your daughter.....and of course your grandchild. My daughter who got pregnant lived with us in a sort of basement apartment which we had fixed up for our son when he was in college. We coached her along and at our suggestion she did not give the child his fathers last name until they were married and refused to live with him until they were married as well. The ability to be indepenent from the child's father until the mother is in a secure situation is essential to your daughter being able to become independent from you later. Until the father of our grandson married our daughter we treated the grandson as a part of our family, which he was as a practical matter. Some of my friends like to spout off about what they would do if such and such happened but I always say to them "you don't know what you would do until it happens to you".
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