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kerry · #1 04-10-2013, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by martureo

xor.

My wife is "a" and I am "b" and we have a yes/no issue. Then:

-if a and b are both yes or no, the decision is made.

-if a says yes and b says no, the decision is unable to be made

-if b says yes and a says no, the decision is unable to be made

Equal vetoing power (that is that either is allowed to negate the decision of the other) gets you nowhere. xor. I'm not talking about specific issues, the problem solving of each situation you mentioned is however exactly the same.

But the fact that it gets you nowhere in regards to that decision does not mean that you can't choose not to decide at all.

davidmash · #2 04-10-2013, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by kerry

But the fact that it gets you nowhere in regards to that decision does not mean that you can't choose not to decide at all.

Or to keep negotiating until a mutually agreed upon decision is reached. That is what we do. There have been cases where it took a while and bribes were involved but in the end we both agreed on the decision.

I would never try and over ride Ms Mash on anything. Not beneficial to my health. I like all my organs inside my body and all my limbs attached at their natural points.

aklim · #3 04-10-2013, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by kerry

But the fact that it gets you nowhere in regards to that decision does not mean that you can't choose not to decide at all.

I am still trying to wrap my mind around how we can both have veto power but mine is more powerful than yours being different from me having veto power and you DON'T.

martureo · #4 04-10-2013, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by kerry

But the fact that it gets you nowhere in regards to that decision does not mean that you can't choose not to decide at all.

Which in my marriage is an impossibility. Neither party can act independently if the decision effects both parties.

aklim · #5 04-10-2013, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by martureo

Neither party can act independently if the decision effects both parties.

Ok. So why you? Why must it be you that is the HOH, final arbiter, veto holder or whatever it is you want to call it? Why not her? Why not take turns? Why not flip a coin? The list goes on.

martureo · #6 04-10-2013, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by aklim

Ok. So why you? Why must it be you that is the HOH, final arbiter, veto holder or whatever it is you want to call it? Why not her? Why not take turns? Why not flip a coin? The list goes on.

Because we are both Christians and appeal to the Bible.