A few months back I went to the post office to mail some letters. As I was coming out, I saw a man coming in through the door I was coming out of. He was crippled up like a pretzel; he could barely walk. I held the door for him as he slowly made his way in.

I don't have problems.

I was speaking with another friend who had a friend whose teenage daughter had recently tried to commit suicide.

I don't have problems.

All of these mass shootings; the high cost of the loss of life. The pain the families are feeling......

I woke up this morning and greeted the day. Yes, I have a few aches and pains due to aging, all in all doing pretty well though........

I don't have problems......

When ever I think my day sucks, I remember what my parents endured. My day definitely does not suck.

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Everyone has some form of problems. Or you are not living. They may not be constant but seem to be unavoidable.

One can have problems to a lesser or greater degree than others. I do agree the fewer the better. Ones tolerance level for issues develops with the experience of them. No two people will be the same.

Einsteins theory of relativity may apply in an oblique fashion. We are all defective. When in general happy we really are not fully aware we are. Yet when unhappy it can be the epicenter of our very existance.

Defining the difference is very hard to impossible. As it is so subjective in nature I suspect. Genetics are probably involved.

Yes, there are so many who have it very bad indeed .

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Ignorance is the mother of suspicion and fear is the father

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I am trying hard to focus on gratitude and forgiveness. My father was a sergeant in the Pacific theater, my sisters and I agree that he probably had some PTSD going on, long before they called it that of course.

A veteran of the first Gulf War and Somalia used to post here a lot, called himself Med Mech (he had a business repairing medical equipment). We clashed on military issues early on, me being a Vietnam pacifist, but later came to like each other. He once told me that children of Sergeants also serve. Was interesting food for thought for me.

Point I’m getting at, my father could be tough to deal with, a lot of anger and aloofness. On the other hand, he was one tough, resourceful sum beach. And could really spot a con artist. He died 22 years ago, I’m still trying to completely let go of any anger towards him. I’ve seen so many men in the world who would’ve been a much worse father, I need to count my blessings.

An old but obscure saying comes to me now and then:

“Remember, things could always get worse.”

Sounds like sort of a downer at first glance, but strikes me that the meaning is something like “quit yer bellyaching, you don’t know what real trouble is.”

On top of that, it strikes me that whining, self-pity increases the chances that you will do something stupid or neglectful that actually will make things worse.

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Mentally healthy is just to let anger go. It is too strong an emotion to let persist.

Easier said than done of course. You are entitled to dislike components of your fathers make up. Or personality. You can change none of them. Has to be water under the bridge.

My father is gone for a similar time as well. I think of him once in awhile but very seldom now. He came home from the second world war with some issues. Many others did as well.

If older men that create wars had to engage in them themselves. We would have far fewer of them.

I appreciate the thoughts here .

Now some are telling me I may have PTSD in spite of never having been active duty military .

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-Nate
1982 240D 408,XXX miles
Ignorance is the mother of suspicion and fear is the father

I did then what I knew how to do ~ now that I know better I do better

Latest hype is too much trama in a life. Changes the very way the brain functions. Wife explains it well yet there is no absolute proof.

My belief is genetic pre disposition plays a far bigger part in life that is not discussed enough. For example when dealing with behavioral issues. A determination if they are a habit versus a genetic predisposition. To me determines the outcome of any attempt to change them.

I am a simple person yet have to be effective. My father from time to time said things that took me years to fully verify.

That you cannot change a persons basic nature is far truer than not. It tends to display as them being on autopilot. What my father was really reffereing to was genetic pre disposition.