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sunedog · #16 12-31-2009, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Antony

Wife had an affair, we're getting a divorce next week. At 41 she thinks she's gay. We've been married 15 years (together about 20), and she's in love with a woman she's known for 8 months.

I think you should undergo a sex change and try to reconcile with her.

thief · #17 12-31-2009, 05:18 PM

What about a 3-way?

barry123400 · #18 12-31-2009, 08:37 PM

It seemed to me it takes awhile to get past these things. To top that no two situations are identical either.. Life ultimatly goes on. Time does not heal everything but in my experience does change things. Remember some guys are also afraid they won't leave.

Those have to be the really sad cases. Take care and the best for the new year.

Codifex Maximus · #19 12-31-2009, 08:54 PM

Looking into crystal ball...

I see a nice W123 coupe or an SL convertible in your future.

Kuan · #20 12-31-2009, 09:45 PM

Maybe you should learn to eat p*ssy better.

j/k man, sucks, but you have an open road ahead of you now.

jplinville · #21 01-01-2010, 06:55 AM

Dude...will she at least let you watch? LOL

johnjzjz · #22 01-01-2010, 10:30 AM

all you can hope for is she come running back and with months and months of practice on her girlfriend it will be a rather interesting evening until you cant let her do it any more and than throw her out -- its what i would do -- jz

G-Benz · #23 01-01-2010, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Antony

Wife had an affair, we're getting a divorce next week...she's in love with a woman she's known for 8 months...

...Was within $8,000 of owning my house (a life-long dream), had to remortgage to give her half...

...Lost 1/2 my retirement money...

Call me a moron, but if the divorce is due to her infidelity, why does she get HALF???!

okyoureabeast · #24 01-01-2010, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by G-Benz

Call me a moron, but if the divorce is due to her infidelity, why does she get HALF???!

Yeah I was under the impression that this is generally frowned upon by the courts.

Have I been mistaken? Where's MTI, our all encompassing lawyer on everything law.

ramonajim · #25 01-01-2010, 12:45 PM

Can only speak from experience re: California law: doesn't matter for diddly squat who did what to whom. Everything that wasn't yours before the nuptials is by legal definition community property (with a few exceptions regarding gifts received during the marriage). Everything that is community property is split 50/50 at the time of the divorce.

Doesn't matter if one/the other/both screwed around.

Worse yet - in California, if you're married for 7 years or more, 'spousal support' is paid forever (unless said spouse dies or remarries).

okyoureabeast · #26 01-01-2010, 04:57 PM

Ouch that's terrible.

Maybe Mass law will be better. I am not a lawyer and don't heed much legal advice online but this website says adultery doesn't affect alimony but is considered in the awarding of it.

http://www.madivorceonline.com/mapages/Divorce/divorcerequirements.asp

The entire site is vague so I would feel much better talking to a lawyer.

Just more fodder for me to never get married

t walgamuth · #27 01-01-2010, 10:45 PM

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Originally Posted by ramonajim

Can only speak from experience re: California law: doesn't matter for diddly squat who did what to whom. Everything that wasn't yours before the nuptials is by legal definition community property (with a few exceptions regarding gifts received during the marriage). Everything that is community property is split 50/50 at the time of the divorce.

Doesn't matter if one/the other/both screwed around.

Worse yet - in California, if you're married for 7 years or more, 'spousal support' is paid forever (unless said spouse dies or remarries).

This sounds about like what I would expect here in Indiana. I doubt there are many places where who did what means much.

I had a divorce from my first wife. It was tough but I moved on and tried hard to do what was best for our daughter who was 3 at the time. I am now married to a wonderful gal for 32 years and have an excellent relationship with my first daughter who finally figured out about ten years ago that her mom is kindof crazy....four kids with my present wife and total of 11 grandkids.

Hang in there buddy! It will take time but things will get better.

Diesel4me · #28 01-01-2010, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Antony

Wife had an affair, we're getting a divorce next week. At 41 she thinks she's gay. We've been married 15 years (together about 20), and she's in love with a woman she's known for 8 months. Got the dreaded late-night phone call on 10/23/09.

Once the US decides to wake up and give gay people equal access to marriage, i have no doubt that stories like this will be scarce after a couple of generations.

aklim · #29 01-02-2010, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Diesel4me

Once the US decides to wake up and give gay people equal access to marriage, i have no doubt that stories like this will be scarce after a couple of generations.

I have my doubts. There will always be family pressure to get married with a person of the opposite sex, have kids, etc, etc. As far as I am concerned, this isn't about someone who decided her sexuality late in life. This is about someone who cheated on someone. That it happened to be with someone of the same sex is not going to be relevant.

When someone does something like that, be it with any sex, what they are doing is testing the waters without any commitment. IOW, if it works out, they ditch the spouse or SO. If it doesn't, they still have the spouse or SO to fall back on.

IMO, this isn't about somebody who found out that she was attracted to the same sex. It is about someone who wanted something different without risking much. Somehow, I think the OP is better off without her. I'd buy the ex's GF dinner for taking that problem off my hands and wish her my best since she will need it when dealing with that woman. After all, if she could cheat on him that way, what makes anyone believe she cannot do it again?

Diesel4me · #30 01-02-2010, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by aklim

Somehow, I think the OP is better off without her. I'd buy the ex's GF dinner for taking that problem off my hands and wish her my best since she will need it when dealing with that woman.

I agree with this part of your post.

I also agree that there may always be some that feel pressured into an "opposite marriage" as slutty Carrie Prejean put it, but I also think after a few generations of homo marriage these pressures will be lessened to a degree. Looking forward to it. Just MHO.